my bachelorette party invite text

hey again!

You’ve probably seen me on Instagram time + again saying that communication is the key to a successful bachelorette trip. That’s why I’m sharing the exact text that I sent to the girls for my sister’s bachelorette group — the key here is that they knew what to expect, and asking for a deposit let me know who was a solid yes! I’ve since used this text for multiple girls’ weekends and it truly does work every time.

Before you send this text: Get with the bride or a few key players (not the whole group!) and figure out what your top priorities are for lodging, activities, + food. If you can give attendees a ballpark budget, they’ll be able to give you a solid yes or no… rather than being surprised by the cost + bailing at the last minute!

Make sure you give yourself + the rest of the group plenty of heads up when it comes to the cost of a bachelorette trip! We suggest planning a bachelorette at least 6+ months in advance. The more time people have, the more likely they can make it!

Here’s the text I sent for my sister’s bachelorette in Cabo, which I sent 8 months in advance. Feel free to copy + edit to make it your own!

Hi gals! This is Randi, Kelsey’s older sister. I am working on details for Kelsey’s bachelorette, which is officially going to be in city from dates. I know this is a long time away but we wanted to get it on everyone’s calendar well in advance!

We have chosen a house, which we’re booking this week. I wanted to share a few additional details with you so you know what to plan for!

cost of the house per person for three nights: $price — house link:

I don’t have a cost for other activities yet but tentatively:

— a chef at the house one night, tentative price

— groceries/alcohol for the weekend, tentative price

— day club, tentative price

— boat day, tentative price (+ say whether the price includes alcohol, etc for an activity like this!)

Next steps:

1.    If you’re officially a yes, venmo deposit to @yourvenmo by next Friday so we can pay the house deposit! The next payment will be due in the fall.

2.  Join our planning app (or whatever you’re choosing to use to keep everyone organized — we’re using my bachelorette party planning spreadsheets)

3.   Start tracking flights + make sure you have your passport!

Thanks! If you have any specific questions, feel free to text me directly! 💕

Side note to this text: I highly recommend making people pay a deposit if they’re really committed. If you just ask them if they’re going, they’re going to say yes, then potentially back out when faced with actual costs. If you make them pay a deposit up front, even something small, it gets those booties in gear to make sure they’re serious! We made our deposit $120 so that it wasn’t too daunting, but also a big enough amount that people would care.

Questions? Message me @kayandco on Instagram!

xo, Randi